It has been awhile since I lasted created a post. Here is a quick debrief of my life before I get into it:
- I witnessed my mother commence her last radiation treatment. (HURRAY!)
- I moved my twin sister into her new apartment cities away.
- I fell out of love: with my job and my significant other.
- I didn’t know what to do with my life.
I know you are probably thinking, “Why are you even telling me this?”. I am telling you because each of these experiences have taught me something invaluable and I wanted to share my advice with you.
1) Every breakup happens for a reason. It may not seem like it at the time but it is true. Your heart is going to break. You may think you will never be able to move on, but I can promise you that you will – whether that is in a month, or 2 years (everyone has their own timeline). Each breakup means that you are that much closer to finding the person that is right for you.
2) Don’t be so rigid about your plans. Likely, they are not going to go as planned. Having second thoughts about your job is normal. Find a job that makes you excited to go to in the morning and don’t let money be your motivator – it will follow.
Also, this is the time in life (being in your 20’s and all) you are likely going to see your friends get engaged, get married, have children or a buy a house. I know sometimes you are going to wish that you were at a similar stage… it is OKAYYYYY! Take a look at where you are and be happy because you are not the only one having wishful thoughts.
3) This is the time you are possibly going to be in debt. Once again, this is OKAY! Like myself, you are probably just getting familiar with paying all of these bills. You may see your credit almost reach its limit and you may be going ballistic. Make regular payments on your credit card, make sure you pay your bills and relax…. this is the time to be in debt. My best advice is to create a monthly budget to help you plan for those payments that you will likely forget about and stick to it.
4) Keep in touch with your lifelong friends. I know just from moving my sister cities away it can be hard. You are most likely going to experience the same with your friends. We are at a time in our lives where we are starting to create ‘our lives’ and that may mean moving away. Make sure to keep in touch. With technology these days you have no excuse. Goodness, you can be making your morning coffee and in that time send a quick message to your friend(s).
5) Your life is going to be busy. Whether that is trying to find the job of your dreams, working multiple jobs, going to school, or whatever it may be, you are going to experience moments that make you overwhelmed. That is completely normal, but my best advice to you is to make sure to take time for yourself and the moments that matter. I know my life was busy when my mother was commencing her cancer treatments, but I made sure to be there for the phone calls, texts and moments she needed me.
6) Lastly, stop doubting yourself. Everybody has their own clock and your time will come when you can see the future you wanted happening (planned or not). This is where the whole ‘my life in a glance’ comes to play; without these experiences that I went through, I wouldn’t be where I am at today:
- I realized the importance of making time for myself and family.
- I may have fell out of love, but I found a job I see myself growing in and gained the independence I needed to be happy without relying on others.
- I learned to let go of the friendships that were not ‘friendships’ and appreciate the loyal sidekicks I have.
- I learned it is okay to go off track. There is a purpose for it and now I know that where I am in life is where I am suppose to be.
To finish this post, I am going to leave you with a quote:
In the end, everything will be okay. If it is not okay, it is not yet the end. – Fernando Sabino